to the singles:

My views on love... I think that love is more than actions, sweet gestures, words, feelings or anything else things that look like love.
Love, true love, is a commitment.
It’s the continual putting up with one another and always looking for the best in them even when they are annoying you or seem to hate little things about you.
It’s realizing that no one is ever going to be perfect,
and not allowing that bother you.
It’s about loving a person for their imperfections as much as their good qualities.

the truth about married life: it is hard
– it’s like giving up yourself and being another person too.
but after awhile you learn to like who you've become.
there is some reward to it all as well.

“i think that it is about choosing to keep the promise that you made when you got married and always trying to look for the things that made you fall in love with him. i guess the best way to define it is that your whole outlook on life gets reorganized. before- i did whatever the heck i wanted to and made out with whoever and so on. but now- (he)is a part of my life - and not in some ball and chain sort of way- but he is someone that i love. so that means that his feelings are important to me-

it isn't easy though and sometimes it would just be so easy (if it were not for the kids) to say f your feelings, wants, desire and leave.
marriage makes you a different person,though- not complelty - but you have to grow up.
but despite it being hard
i really do like it-
if it doesnt take work - it's not worth it.