Sunday, July 30, 2006

history of my home town

history of Bixby
The Midland Valley Railroad built the Bixby Depot in 1904.
This parade entry was a crowd pleaser at the 1970 Green Corn Festival Parade

the beginnings of bixby
Bixby became a government town site with a Post Office in 1899. Located in the Creek Nation in Indian Territory, Bixby was named in honor of Tams Bixby, a chairman of the Dawes Commission. Contrary to some popular assumptions, Mr. Bixby never resided in the town of Bixby.

Many settlers were attracted to the area by the rich, though sometimes swampy, river bottom land. In 1904, the Midland Valley Railroad laid tracks through the area, built a depot, and opened a new 40-acre addition next to the original town site. It created factions that briefly split Bixby into two towns. The new part was deliberately surveyed so the new streets did not align with the existing streets. Eventually, the older businesses moved to the new business district near the railroad depot. The disagreement was settled, but the streets between the two additions still do not match up.

bixby becomes official in 1906
Bixbys population grew, and in 1906 it incorporated as a self-governing, independent town. The first mayor, recorder, and five aldermen were elected in February, 1907. All the candidates and voters were men; womens suffrage was not recognized in Indian Territory in 1907. By 1908, a two-story, brick school house was built on Main Street. The new school was located in the towns original business district. Bixbys Central Elementary is now near that brick school house site.

longest bridge west of the mississippi river
A traffic bridge was built over the Arkansas River just outside the town in 1911. It was said to have been the longest bridge west of the Mississippi River. In 1921, the bridge would be critical in the routing of the Albert Pike Highway (now U.S. Highway 64) between Muskogee and Tulsa. The Cotton Belt Highway was later built through Bixby in the 1930s. With two highways and a railroad, Bixby had an excellent transportation system

oil boom of 1913
Bixby was built on the strength of rich farm lands, and agriculture had a major economic impact on the area. There had been some oil activity, but in 1913 a 1,000- barrel-a-day oil well was drilled south of the town. The oil boom that followed boosted the economy for many years.

the garden spot of oklahoma
During the late 1930s, truck farming of vegetables replaced many of the cotton, wheat, and alfalfa fields. By 1941, Bixby became one of the major national shipping centers for produce. It became nationally known as The Garden Spot of Oklahoma, shipping cantaloupes, potatoes, radishes, squash, turnips, spinach and sweet corn all over the country. Many of the truck farms have become sod farms or housing additions, and the majority of people living in Bixby work in Tulsa. But the days of Bixbys earlier agricultural heritage are still celebrated during the Green Corn Festival held at the end of June of each year in Old Town Bixby.

Saturday, July 29, 2006

life..... sucks....

I have to say that don and i have come a long way since last year at this time...
last i remember feeling like me and the kids were not very important to Don... or just overall disconnected and out of place in life.... Don was busy & I was lonely a lot because he was gone and i felt that way even when he was around. that can be the worst feeling -- being lonely when the room is full of people or the person who is suppose to be closest to you is sitting right next to you …but there is empty air...

"Loneliness has nothing to do with the presents of people… is the hunger of the human heart for emotional intimacy -The need to feel connected." David T. Moore

i tried to fill the void with people as well as Mops & church stuff and primarily the kids, getting ready to start school and other things to keep me busy...
I hate how at times it seems like having good friends/ relationships is a lot of work
there were times I honestly felt like i was a real loser and worthless... & that i had failed as a wife and mother in many ways, maybe because that alone ( being a mom and housewife) wasn't satisfying enough for me...
don would like me to be a happy housewife-- but i preferred going to school and -I hope someday to have a nice job..... many times in our married life I’ve felt like I’ve had to earn his love or that i didn’t satisfy him because I wasn’t the person he wanted to marry.
but i knew i needed the Lord's help- and i always do... i would pray but i felt disconnected there too...OH how i hate that....
anyways, maybe my feeling weren’t really Don's fault but just a side effect of everything going on in our lives - me getting ready to start a new school year and being busy, etc...
my point is that I want Don & i to feel connected and desire each others' company. & at this point we do.

right now i think that we do more so than we usually do...

I know that we have a better relationship than we did last year and i want it to continue to get better. I LOVE don so much... and i hope that him and i can make each other feel that we are needed by the other... cause sometimes that doesn’t happen… Cause we want different things...

right now I miss Don a lot while I’m here in Oklahoma and the life I have with him and our friends out there.

i hope don and i can maintain friendships with others but more importantly with each other and be come good parents and closer to GOD.
I also hope that Don and I can always have a good relationship...

I'm not sure what's going to happen when i get back to VA -- cause one of don's brothers' wrecked our good car. Totaled it. so I’m out of a vehicle. I’m not mad - just sad and down that life has to SUCK! and I feel bad for his brother. But our insurance will go up because of this. UHG! I hate that life will be more stressful and less enjoyable due to all of this. On top of that the only running car we own doesn’t run well.
I am committed to helping out with Mops things and of course I like to get out of the house during the week; but now I will have to take don to work and pick him up if I want to do anything- that is such a pain.
I hate being powerless to fix or help resolve the situation.
I want to get a job – I want Caleb to be in a good school.
But for now here I sit with nothing to do. As if we didn’t have enough money troubles as it were! Well I do believe that the Devil is trying to get to me- get me down and cause more fights between don and I. But I’m going to try really hard not to allow that to happen. For now I have to just be resolved “to be content in whatever state I’m in..” & that “this too shall pass” & “life will go on” …
no need for me to get all Huffy!

Friday, July 28, 2006

hanging at Sonic

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amy & jady

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Thursday, July 27, 2006

Bixby farm

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the red barn

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old red barn

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Wednesday, July 26, 2006

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happy girls

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Tuesday, July 25, 2006

my new color

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Love is a Choice

Before I had kids, I never fathomed how much I could actually love someone. I may have "loved" my parents, "loved" my siblings or even "fell in love" with that special someone. But the love that poured from my soul when I first held that precious sleeping baby could not be matched. I may have been scared, but I knew that I would love this little child, no matter what.

As my journey in mothering continues I've realized that often love is a choice. It's a decision, not a feeling. When my 2-year-old throws a tantrum, or my kids are are fighting and I am at the end of my rope, I don't feel so loving. But I know I still love them. When my feelings are hurt by a friend, or even my spouse I don't want to love. But I am called to love. When my husband doesn't tell me he loves me, my love for him must continue.

"Mommy, do you love me?" Of course we, as mothers, love our children. They cannot begin to understand how loved they are. And you know what? God loves them too. Even more than we love them. How can that be? God sacrificed his son so that we - each one of us - could become children of God.

when i hear "Mommy, do you love me?" I look in to my child's eyes and tell him or her that i love them. & repeat it, again and again. "I love you. I love you.
I really love you."

"I love these little people; and it is not a slight thing when they, who are so fresh from God, love us."
(Charles Dickens)

Friday, July 21, 2006

plane ride

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train ride

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Big Rig?

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Thursday, July 20, 2006


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another day at the POOL!

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Monday, July 17, 2006

Colorful sunset

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we love kittys

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Oklahoma sunset

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Saturday, July 15, 2006

GO-Cart TIME!!

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cool kids!!!

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